For example, a child who\u2019s very shy, it\u2019s not much use to say \u201cWhy don\u2019t you go over there and play with them?\u201d it doesn\u2019t work very well, but you could say to that child, \u201cIf you want to go over and play with those others, I can help you, just let me know.\u201d So the child takes initiative, and that\u2019s an important part of early social development, which kind of reminds me, on one occasion I was working at a, in a lab school in a different country, and in the mornings the teacher of the four year old class would go around at ten thirty with a tray with crackers to give to the children, now, nothing unusual about that. This happened to be in February so the children had been in that, four year old children had been in that group since September. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But there was one little girl in the group who had never, ever spoken in school. All the evidence was she spoke perfectly normally at home, and in the neighbourhood, and with her cousins and her brothers and sisters, but in school, not a word. And I was watching the teacher and she would go around offering the children, with the tray, offering them a cracker, and when she got to that little girl she said, \u201cYou can\u2019t have a cracker unless you use your words.\u201d And what did the girl do? Walked away. And so I talked to the teacher and I said \u201cYou know, try this, see if this helps, say to her, \u2018You don\u2019t have to talk if you don\u2019t want to, but if you change your mind, I\u2019ll be over there\u2019\u201d. And within a week she was talking. Now, I\u2019ve often wondered about this, how, is that, why didn\u2019t that teacher think of that? And it\u2019s what we call insight. It\u2019s not technical; it\u2019s not a technique to use. It\u2019s an understanding of what might be causing the behavior which in her case is she dug in her heels no matter what, she was probably a very stubborn kid, and once she dug in her heels, she wasn\u2019t going to un-dig them for somebody, by somebody else\u2019s command, she was going to do it when she thought. And it worked fine, and in many situations like that. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
For example, a child who\u2019s very shy, it\u2019s not much use to say \u201cWhy don\u2019t you go over there and play with them?\u201d it doesn\u2019t work very well, but you could say to that child, \u201cIf you want to go over and play with those others, I can help you, just let me know.\u201d So […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":39,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"template-text-only.php","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-1824","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1824","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/39"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1824"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1824\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1825,"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1824\/revisions\/1825"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1824"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}