The second building block is really has two components. And one is providing warmth, and the other is providing structure. We know from many, many years of parenting research that it really all boils down to those two things. And what that means is that children need to be learning in a climate of warmth, which involves, really, physical and emotional security and safety. They have to know that they\u2019re safe. They won\u2019t be hurt, that they don\u2019t feel under threat. When we feel anxious, whether we\u2019re children or adults, when we feel anxious, it\u2019s very difficult to take in information, to process it, and to then make use of it in our behavior. And so what we want to do is minimize the child\u2019s anxiety, take away the fear. So that means that children need to feel that they\u2019re always loved and that they will not be hurt by their parents either physically or emotionally. And when they are sure of that, they\u2019re in a much better space for taking in information and processing and learning from it. But that has to go hand-in-hand with what we call structure. And structure is not control, and it\u2019s not coercion. It\u2019s not forcing the child to do what you want them to do. What it is teaching. It\u2019s giving the child the information that she needs in order to learn what it is we want her to learn. So if, for example, the child is two years old and reaching for a knife, we know that\u2019s dangerous. We know that that can\u2019t happen, and the child needs to not touch that knife in case they get hurt. And they need to understand why that\u2019s important. So if in that situation, we simply respond with a slap on the hand, the child might remove her hand from the knife, and it might possibly deter her from touching a knife, but not necessarily because she doesn\u2019t know why it matters. And she doesn\u2019t really to her, it\u2019s a random event, and she doesn\u2019t really understand what the problem is, and she hasn\u2019t learned anything from that. If we say if you go near that knife again, you\u2019re going to go to your room, she still doesn\u2019t understand why it matters. So we know that all of us are much more likely to cooperate with any rules or instructions if we understand the reason why. And I think as adults, we can reflect on that in realize that that is definitely the case. We\u2019re going to be much more likely to follow a rule or an instruction if we understand why it\u2019s important. So structure is helping the child to understand why it\u2019s important. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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