Durrant – crying

When babies are crying, if a parent assumes that that baby is crying just to make them mad, which is not an uncommon assumption, then that parent is likely to either ignore or to get angry and to shake that baby.  If the parent has a recognition – recognizes the developmental aspects of crying,  they’re much more likely to say that child is signaling me about something, and I, as the mentor, as the teacher, as the one with the wisdom, knowledge, and experience,  my job is to figure out why that’s happening and to not respond with force because that doesn’t make any sense, given the child’s developmental level,  but to respond in a way that is going to help that child learn that I’m here, that I – they’re safe.