{"id":28,"date":"2011-10-03T09:33:59","date_gmt":"2011-10-03T15:33:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/cc-3-1-fostering-attachment\/"},"modified":"2025-09-15T15:28:02","modified_gmt":"2025-09-15T15:28:02","slug":"cc-3-1-understandingfeelingsandbehaviour","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/cc-3-1-understandingfeelingsandbehaviour\/","title":{"rendered":"CC 3.1 Understanding feelings and behaviour"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/play\/files\/2019\/01\/Viktor.CanadaDay.Mad-1.jpg\" alt=\"Close up of sad looking child standing in front of adult.\" class=\"wp-image-6995\"\/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Understanding young children&#8217;s feelings and behaviour increases our capacity to be responsive rather than reactive. We shift from managing children&#8217;s behaviour to building and reinforcing children&#8217;s own self-regulation strategies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most young children interact first with parents or caregivers and later with teachers or early childhood educators. Dr. Joan Durrant, professor emerita of Community Health Sciences at the University of Manitoba, compares these relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-wlrn wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; children&#8217;s relationships (2:19)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90183613?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-childrens-relationships\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; children&#8217;s relationships &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-13D7GI wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p>What does this imply for programs for young children?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What does this imply for the people who work both with children and with their families?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Next, listen as Durrant explains how respectful and responsive caregiving in the early years sets the foundation for positive and trusting relationships between caregivers and their child during adolescence.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-TEJ6J wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; attachment later on (1:30)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189299?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-attachment-later-on\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; attachment later on &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Managing challenging behaviour<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Barbara Kaiser is an early childhood consultant, author and speaker. In the next video, she proposes that children have an innate right to learn the skills they need to get along in the world and that punishment undermines that.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-2wY9fW wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Kaiser \u2013 innate rights of the child (1:59)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/238983028?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-kaiser-innate-rights-of-the-child\/\" target=\"_blank\">Kaiser \u2013 innate rights of the child &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>In the next two clips, Dr. Stuart Shanker explains how parents need to understand their own state of regulation before they can effectively support a child&#8217;s behaviour.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z2wBQP6 wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Shanker \u2013 down-regulating (part 1) (3:02)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/318503346?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-shanker-down-regulating-part-1\/\" target=\"_blank\">Shanker \u2013 down-regulating (part 1) &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z1Ep1vh wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Shanker \u2013 down-regulating (part 2) (2:46)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/318503484?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-shanker-down-regulating-part-2\/\" target=\"_blank\">Shanker \u2013 down-regulating (part 2) &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>There are times when it can be very hard to respond appropriately to a child. In the next video, Kaiser explains that adults sometimes almost fear certain behaviours from children because they may not know how to respond. She describes these as &#8220;button pushers&#8221;. Kaiser recommends some strategies for dealing with these situations and stresses. Like Jean Clinton, Kaiser talks about the importance of staying calm and modelling appropriate actions.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-2oww11 wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Kaiser \u2013 button pushers (2:44)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/238982958?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-kaiser-button-pushers\/\" target=\"_blank\">Kaiser \u2013 button pushers &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>In the next video, Kaiser explains that educators may not even realize that they are using the &#8220;timeout&#8221; strategy when they encounter challenging behaviours. She explores the pitfalls of this technique and suggests instead using calm, teachable moments to support the child.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-cg3fL wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Kaiser \u2013 time out (2:01)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/238983073?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-kaiser-time-out\/\" target=\"_blank\">Kaiser \u2013 time out &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-1VyGK8 wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p>Shanker and Kaiser have slightly different perspectives on the idea of a time out strategy to help children manage their emotions and behaviour. What are your thoughts on this?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How difficult is it for adults to compose themselves (switch from &#8220;red&#8221; brain to  &#8220;blue brain&#8221;) when children&#8217;s behaviour is challenging? What might help?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Discussions about guiding children must also address the issue of discipline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Durrant explains that the term discipline is sometimes mistakenly equated with punishment. In the first clip, she discusses the difference between punishment and discipline and how an adult can discipline to enhance a child&#8217;s learning, acting as a supportive mentor. In the second clip, she explains the beneficial outcomes when adults guide children positively. Before you watch the videos, think about what the word &#8220;discipline&#8221; means to you.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-ZV9IbY wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; discipline vs. punishment (3:15)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189433?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-discipline-vs-punishment\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; discipline vs. punishment &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z1ULiCk wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; outcomes of punishment (1:24)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189456?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-outcomes-of-punishment\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; outcomes of punishment &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>An implicit theme throughout these videos is that adults need to respect children&#8217;s feelings. Rosalie Favreau, a child life specialist at Children&#8217;s Hospital in Winnipeg, discusses a challenging situation involving parents who were dishonest with their child about an upcoming surgery in an effort to make it less traumatic.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z2hwVYd wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Favreau &#8211; dishonesty between parent and child (2:04)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90193273?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-favreau-dishonesty-between-parent-and-child\/\" target=\"_blank\">Favreau &#8211; dishonesty between parent and child &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-A7k3w wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p>Favreau talks about honesty being an important component of a trusting relationship. Why do you think this is the case?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What might happen to the attachment relationship if parents are deceptive?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How might it affect the child&#8217;s behaviour?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Previously, in this module, Dr. Kang Lee, from the University of Toronto, described his research on the development of lying. Children&#8217;s lying is often troubling for adults but Lee explains how it is a normal developmental advance. Dr. Lee relates some implications of his research by sharing recommendation for how adults should respond when a child lies.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z2qvDC7 wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Lee &#8211; responding to lying (2:06)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/125283430?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-lee-responding-to-lying\/\" target=\"_blank\">Lee &#8211; responding to lying &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/overcoming-adversity-300x199.jpg\" alt=\"Sad looking child looking off into distance.\" class=\"wp-image-1393\" title=\"overcoming adversity\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/overcoming-adversity-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/overcoming-adversity.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Programs supporting emotional learning<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Programs intended to help parents and educators better understand children&#8217;s feelings and behaviours emphasize practices that enhance a child&#8217;s self-regulation and reduce activities that are a drain on a child&#8217;s capacity to cope and be competent. The rest of this page introduces you to three such programs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Circle of Security<\/h3>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/COS-jp.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"212\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/COS-jp-300x212.jpg\" alt=\"Title: Circle of Security: Parent Attending to the Child's Needs. \n\nA short oval opens up from a pair if hands on the left. The upper left is labelled Secure Base and the bottom, Safe Haven. The top of the oval shows an illustration of a running child with a speech balloon that says, &quot;I need you to ...&quot; Below this child is a box with the text, Support my exploration.&quot;\n\nThe top right of the oval has an illustration of a child climbing up on a box that has the text, watch over me, delight in me, help me, and Enjoy with me.\n\nThe bottom right of the oval has an illustrated child with a speech balloon saying, &quot;I need you to...&quot; beside a box that reads, Welcome my coming to you.\n\nA fourth child illustration is on their knees reaching up towards the hand and label, Safe Haven. Beside the child is a box with the words, protect me, comfort me, delight in me, organize my feelings. \n\nA box to the bottom right reads, Always be bigger, stronger, wiser and kind. Whenever possible: follow my child's need. Whenever necessary: take charge.\n\nA credit reads, copyright Cooper, Hoffman, Marvin, &amp; Powel. circleofsecurity.org\" class=\"wp-image-3153\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/COS-jp-300x212.jpg 300w, https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/COS-jp-1024x723.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/COS-jp.jpg 1754w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Click to enlarge<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><em>Circle of Security <\/em>is a prevention and intervention program for parents and caregivers to help understand children&#8217;s feelings and behaviours. Dr. Bob Marvin is the director of the Mary Ainsworth Attachment Clinic, and principal investigator on the team that developed the Circle of Security. Listen as he describes the approach.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z1JUjwi wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Marvin &#8211; circle of security (5:52)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90196321?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-marvin-circle-of-security\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marvin &#8211; circle of security &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>In the next two videos, Marvin continues to describe the Circle of Security program, and how we can use it to support and respond to children&#8217;s needs in a positive and caring manner.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-MFweM wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Marvin &#8211; supporting children (4:11)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90196370?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-marvin-supporting-children\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marvin &#8211; supporting children &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-APjaI wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Marvin &#8211; responding to children (4:01)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90196333?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-marvin-responding-to-children\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marvin &#8211; responding to children &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/Circle-of-Repair.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"218\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/Circle-of-Repair-300x218.jpg\" alt=\"A short oval opens up from a pair if hands on the left. The upper left is labelled Secure Base and the bottom, Safe Haven. To the right of the oval, opposite the hands is an illustration of a baby on their knees.\n\nA box in front of the baby reads, &quot;I don't know what to do with how I'm feeling.&quot;\n\nAbove the oval is the text, Mom\/Dad, when I get upset (frustrated, withdrawn, whiney, demanding, out of control):\n\nBelow this, in a box at the top of the oval is the text, My behavior actually means that I need you.\n\nBelow that, in a box in the center of the oval, is, I need you to: Be calm, Take charge, Be kind, Stay with me until we both understand this feeling that seems too much for me alone, and Help me return to what I was doing, with a new option.\n\nA blue colored box below the oval reads, Circle of Repair. Helping my child trust that our relationship will (almost) always set things right.\n\nA credit to the bottom right reads, copyright 2000 - Cooper, Hoffman, Marvin &amp; Powell. circleofsecurity.org\" class=\"wp-image-3173\" srcset=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/Circle-of-Repair-300x218.jpg 300w, https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/Circle-of-Repair.jpg 991w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">click to enlarge<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>In this next video, Marvin describes the <em>Circle of Repair<\/em>, a useful strategy for caregivers to support children as they learn to self-regulate their emotions and overcome challenging situations.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-1GPU0g wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Marvin &#8211; circle of repair (9:11)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90196266?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-marvin-circle-of-repair\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marvin &#8211; circle of repair &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-1HQLub wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p>How does a focus on helping a child organize their behaviours and feelings contribute to a child&#8217;s self-regulation skills?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Does Marvin recommend using behaviour management and consequences to address children&#8217;s challenging behaviour? Why or why not?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Positive Discipline in Everyday Life (PDEL)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Positive Discipline in Everyday Life<\/em> (PDEL) is a rights-based, developmentally-appropriate, universal program designed to support parents, caregivers and teachers facing everyday challenges with children. Dr. Joan Durrant, clinical-child psychologist and Executive Director of Positive Discipline in Everyday Life, introduces the three aims of the PDEL&nbsp;program.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z261ydw wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; introduction to Positive Discipline (1:53)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189462?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-introduction-positive-discipline\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; introduction to Positive Discipline &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>In the next two video clips, Durrant explains how the <em>Positive Discipline<\/em> program differs from other parenting programs, emphasizing a rights-based, universally targeted preventive approach useful for all individuals supporting children.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-w4NzD wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; rights based program (1:25)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189518?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-rights-based-program\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; rights based program &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z8cUIN wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; universal program (2:38)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189602?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-universal-program\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; universal program &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Guiding children&#8217;s behaviour is challenging for all parents but can be particularly difficult for families who have recently immigrated to a new country. With the additional stress of huge life changes, and often different societal expectations of children, families may struggle. The next video, from Families Canada, shows positive discipline approaches among newcomers to Canada.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-explore-1FoOTW wp-block-lazyblock-explore\"><div class=\"explore context-container\">\n   <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.yout-ube.com\/watch?v=uE8O04QU4zE\" class=\"tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Parenting with Positive Discipline &#8211; Family Life in Canada<\/span>\n         \n      <\/div>\n   <\/a>\n<\/div>\n\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-further-full-svDVg wp-block-lazyblock-further-full\"><div class=\"further-full\">\n<div class=\"wtkm\" style=\"display: none;\"><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Want to know more?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The Positive Discipline program is based on a core set of five building blocks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-9d6595d7 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33.33%\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2012\/02\/DurrantGraphic.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2012\/02\/DurrantGraphic.jpg\" alt=\"Graphic labelled Positive Discipline: What it is and how to do it.\n\nTo the left are labelled and stacked blocks and to the right, a column of unstacked labelled blocks.\n\nStarting on the left, the bottom block is labelled, Identifying your long terms goals. Sitting above this are two half-blocks labelled, Providing warmth, and Providing Structure. The next block above these are a full width block labelled, Understanding how children think and feel. Finally on top is a centered half block labelled, Problem solving. \n\nThe blocks to the right, from top to bottom are, The approach to obstacles, challenges and frustrations (aligned with Problem solving to the left), The materials (aligned with Understand how children think and feel to the left), The tools (beside Providing warmth\/Providing structure), and finally, The plan (beside Identifying your long-term goals).\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Click to enlarge<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:66.66%\">\n<p>Click on the videos below to hear Joan Durrant explain the first two building blocks of <em>Positive Discipline &#8211; <\/em>Identifying your long-term goals and Providing Warmth and Structure.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-ZQfOyk wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; building block 1 (2:54)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189340?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-building-block-1\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; building block 1 &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z18hNSI wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; building block 2 (3:03)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189367?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-building-block-2\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; building block 2 &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Durrant now describes the final two building blocks of <em>Positive Discipline &#8211; <\/em>Understanding how children think and feel and Problem-Solving<em>.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-AbjbO wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; building block 3 (2:27)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189368?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-building-block-3\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; building block 3 &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-2cCLXM wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; building block 4 (3:36)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189410?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-building-block-4\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; building block 4 &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-Z1rmyLa wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p>To what extent do you think this program can facilitate caregivers to help children develop self-regulation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Positive Discipline program is one approach that can support children&#8217;s coping and competence abilities. Are you familiar with other approaches?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>Another video related to positive discipline and newcomer families introduces the approach. This video, called <em>An Introduction to Positive Discipline<\/em>, is from Families Canada.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-explore-Z1kLHHo wp-block-lazyblock-explore\"><div class=\"explore context-container\">\n   <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.yout-ube.com\/watch?v=YNjKSE0-nKo\" class=\"tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">An Introduction to Positive Discipline<\/span>\n         \n      <\/div>\n   <\/a>\n<\/div>\n\n<\/div>\n<p><\/p><\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Shanker Self-Regulation Method<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Dr. Stuart Shanker, founder and chief executive officer of The MEHRIT Centre, describes five steps to the <em>Self-Reg<\/em> (Self-Regulation) method: reframe the behaviour, recognize the stressors, reduce the stress, reflect, and respond.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Xew3K wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Shanker \u2013 Shanker Self-regulation Method (3:17)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/318503691?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-shanker-shanker-self-regulation-method\/\" target=\"_blank\">Shanker \u2013 Shanker Self-regulation Method &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>The next link provides a graphic representation of the five steps.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-read-1IQI3h wp-block-lazyblock-read\"><div class=\"read context-container\">\n   <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/self-reg.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/domain_method_2.pdf\" class=\"tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">READ <\/span><span class=\"tap-description\">Self-reg 101<\/span><\/span>      \n      <\/div>\n   <\/a>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-1AH2In wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p>Shanker outlines the 5 steps clearly. Can you see how you could apply these to deal with stressors in your own life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>How might this method change how you support a child who is stressed?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p>The MEHRIT Centre website contains a wealth of information about Shanker&#8217;s <em>Self-Reg<\/em> method including a Resource Library with information sheets, graphics, discussion guides, and more.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-explore-2sBslK wp-block-lazyblock-explore\"><div class=\"explore context-container\">\n   <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/self-reg.ca\/resource-library\/\" class=\"tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">EXPLORE<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">The MEHRIT Centre &#8211; Resource Library<\/span>\n         \n      <\/div>\n   <\/a>\n<\/div>\n\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-further-full-E4mRb wp-block-lazyblock-further-full\"><div class=\"further-full\">\n<div class=\"wtkm\" style=\"display: none;\"><\/div>\n\n\n<p>There are some excellent resources designed to help parents, caregivers and educators understand child development, including suggestions for supporting children&#8217;s feelings and behaviour. 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