{"id":216,"date":"2013-07-15T15:40:13","date_gmt":"2013-07-15T15:40:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/secd-intro\/?page_id=216"},"modified":"2025-11-26T17:18:43","modified_gmt":"2025-11-26T17:18:43","slug":"cc-3-1-understanding-feelings-and-behaviour","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/secd-intro\/cc-3-1-understanding-feelings-and-behaviour\/","title":{"rendered":"CC 3.1 Understanding feelings and behaviour"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"alignright\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/overcoming-adversity-300x199.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1393\" title=\"overcoming adversity\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Understanding young children&#8217;s feelings and behaviour increases our capacity to be responsive rather than reactive. We shift from managing children&#8217;s behaviour to building and reinforcing children&#8217;s own self-regulation strategies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Barbara Kaiser is an early childhood consultant, author and speaker. In the next video, she proposes that children have an innate right to learn the skills they need to get along in the world and that punishment undermines that.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-gvVTv wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Kaiser \u2013 innate rights of the child (1:59)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/238983028?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-kaiser-innate-rights-of-the-child\/\" target=\"_blank\">Kaiser \u2013 innate rights of the child &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<div>\n<h3>Managing challenging behaviour<\/h3>\n<p>There are times when it can be very hard to respond appropriately to a child. In the next video, Kaiser explains that adults sometimes almost fear certain behaviours from children because they may not know how to respond. She describes these as &#8220;button pushers&#8221; and recommends some strategies for dealing with these situations and stresses. Kaiser talks about the importance of staying calm and modelling appropriate actions.<\/p>\n<p><\/p><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-ZY5mTr wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Kaiser \u2013 button pushers (2:44)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/238982958?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-kaiser-button-pushers\/\" target=\"_blank\">Kaiser \u2013 button pushers &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Discussions about guiding children must also address the issue of discipline. Dr. Joan Durrant explains that the term discipline is sometimes mistakenly equated with punishment. In the first clip, she discusses the difference between punishment and discipline and how an adult can discipline to enhance a child&#8217;s learning, acting as a supportive mentor. In the second clip, she explains the beneficial outcomes when adults guide children positively. Before you watch the videos, think about what the word &#8220;discipline&#8221; means to you.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-20BWS6 wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; discipline vs. punishment (3:15)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189433?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-discipline-vs-punishment\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; discipline vs. punishment &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-241gGl wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; outcomes of punishment (1:24)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189456?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-outcomes-of-punishment\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; outcomes of punishment &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<div>\n<h3>Programs supporting emotional learning<\/h3>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some programs are designed to help parents and educators better understand children&#8217;s feelings and behaviours. These programs emphasize practices that enhance a child&#8217;s self-regulation and reduce activities that make it hard for children to cope and be competent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>Circle of Security <\/em><\/strong>is a prevention and intervention program for parents and caregivers to help understand children&#8217;s feelings and behaviours. Dr. Bob Marvin was the&nbsp;principal investigator on the team that developed the Circle of Security.&nbsp;Listen as he describes the approach.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-ZsvU5t wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Marvin &#8211; circle of security (5:52)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90196321?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-marvin-circle-of-security\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marvin &#8211; circle of security &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/COS-jp.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/COS-jp-300x212.jpg\" alt=\"Title: Circle of Security: Parent Attending to the Child's Needs. \n\nA short oval opens up from a pair if hands on the left. The upper left is labelled Secure Base and the bottom, Safe Haven. The top of the oval shows an illustration of a running child with a speech balloon that says, &quot;I need you to ...&quot; Below this child is a box with the text, Support my exploration.&quot;\n\nThe top right of the oval has an illustration of a child climbing up on a box that has the text, watch over me, delight in me, help me, and Enjoy with me.\n\nThe bottom right of the oval has an illustrated child with a speech balloon saying, &quot;I need you to...&quot; beside a box that reads, Welcome my coming to you.\n\nA fourth child illustration is on their knees reaching up towards the hand and label, Safe Haven. Beside the child is a box with the words, protect me, comfort me, delight in me, organize my feelings. \n\nA box to the bottom right reads, Always be bigger, stronger, wiser and kind. Whenever possible: follow my child's need. Whenever necessary: take charge.\n\nA credit reads, copyright Cooper, Hoffman, Marvin, &amp; Powel. circleofsecurity.org\" class=\"wp-image-3153\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Click to enlarge<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In this next video, Marvin describes the Circle of Repair, a useful strategy for caregivers to support children as they learn to self-regulate their emotions and overcome challenging situations.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-1TS9lf wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Marvin &#8211; circle of repair (9:11)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90196266?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-marvin-circle-of-repair\/\" target=\"_blank\">Marvin &#8211; circle of repair &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/Circle-of-Repair.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2011\/10\/Circle-of-Repair-300x218.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-3173\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">click to enlarge<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-1r6BQe wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How does a focus on helping a child organize their behaviours and feelings contribute to a child&#8217;s self-regulation skills?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In the next interview, Rosalie Favreau,&nbsp;a child life specialist at Children&#8217;s Hospital in Winnipeg,&nbsp;discusses a challenging situation involving parents who were dishonest with their child about an upcoming surgery.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z2jIUUT wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Favreau &#8211; dishonesty between parent and child (2:04)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90193273?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-favreau-dishonesty-between-parent-and-child\/\" target=\"_blank\">Favreau &#8211; dishonesty between parent and child &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-reflect-Z2i5QHa wp-block-lazyblock-reflect\"><div class=\"reflect\">\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Favreau talks about honesty being an important component of a trusting relationship. Why do you think this is the case?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What might happen to the attachment relationship if parents are deceptive?<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>P<\/em><em>ositive Discipline in Everyday Life (PDEL) <\/em><\/strong>is a rights-based, developmentally-appropriate, universal program designed to support parents, caregivers and teachers facing everyday challenges with children. Dr. Joan Durrant, Executive Director of PDEL, introduces the three aims of the program.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-PLVgG wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Durrant &#8211; introduction to positive discipline (1:53)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/90189462?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-durrant-introduction-positive-discipline\/\" target=\"_blank\">Durrant &#8211; introduction to positive discipline &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">PDEL is based on a core set of five building blocks.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2012\/02\/DurrantGraphic.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/third-edition\/files\/2012\/02\/DurrantGraphic.jpg\" alt=\"PositiveDisciplineGraphic\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">click to enlarge<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>The Shanker <em>Self-Reg<\/em> (Self-Regulation) Method<\/strong> includes five steps: reframe the behaviour, recognize the stressors, reduce the stress, reflect, and respond. Listen to Dr. Stuart Shanker,&nbsp;founder and chief executive officer of The MEHRIT Centre, explain.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript-Z1GVeTP wp-block-lazyblock-watch-expand-transcript\"><div class=\"watch-expand expand-container context-container\">\n   <div class=\"watch tap-to-expand tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">VIEW<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">Shanker &#8211; Self-regulation Method (3:17)<\/span>\n        \n      <\/div>\n   <\/div>\n   <div class=\"output-content collapse\" style=\"height: 0px;\">\n      <div class=\"vimeo-container\">\n         <iframe webkitallowfullscreen=\"\" mozallowfullscreen=\"\" allowfullscreen=\"\" src=\"\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/318503691?api=1\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe>\n      <\/div><br>\n      <p><a href=\"https:\/\/content.scienceofecd.com\/transcript\/transcript-shanker-shanker-self-regulation-method\/\" target=\"_blank\">Shanker &#8211; Self-regulation Method &#8211; Text Transcript<\/a><\/p>\n   <\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The MEHRIT Centre website contains a wealth of information about Shanker&#8217;s <em>Self-Reg<\/em> method including a downloadable toolkit, information sheets, downloadable graphics and more.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-explore-FScAO wp-block-lazyblock-explore\"><div class=\"explore context-container\">\n   <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/self-reg.ca\/\" class=\"tap-container\">\n      <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n      <div class=\"tap-content\">\n         <span class=\"tap-label\">EXPLORE<\/span>\n         <span class=\"tap-description\">The MEHRIT Centre &#8211; Shanker Self-Reg<\/span>\n         \n      <\/div>\n   <\/a>\n<\/div>\n\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Click on the terms in the next activity to review some of the information you have learned this far.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"lazyblock-interact-1Me5Vt wp-block-lazyblock-interact\"><div class=\"interact-link context-container\">\n  <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/hscsr.rrc.ca\/secd\/interactions\/pictureGrid-CC3-1\/pictureGrid-CC3-1.html\" class=\"tap-container interact\">\n    <div class=\"tap-icon\"><\/div>\n    <div class=\"tap-content\">\n      <span class=\"tap-label\">INTERACT<\/span>\n      <span class=\"tap-description\">Click to enlarge terms<\/span>\n    <\/div>\n  <\/a>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By having a realistic and positive approach to discipline, parents, other caregivers and educators can help support children to develop and strengthen their regulatory systems to cope and be competent. 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